Walking you to your car or home
It’s nice that the guy doesn’t want you to be attacked by a robber, or worse – but a lot of men seem to have forgotten the art of being a gentleman. It is though that this particular gesture is old school, but women love it, if she wants you to. However a note of warning if it is the first meeting and a lady insists that she does not want you walking her home. Then, don’t. You may get her in trouble with her uncle she is staying with.
Carrying your bags
Yes, ladies still like their bags to be carried by the man walking beside her. We know about the equality debate, but some things will always remain the same, no matter what. When a guy eagerly swoops up, out of nowhere, saying, “Let me take those for you” as he practically already is, it can be really sweet, except he intends to run off with them.
Offering you a ride home
This is if you have a car. Putting the lady in the cab when you have a car shows that you do not really care. However, women are no stranger to ‘Stranger Danger!’ So, this should be done with care. The guy might know he’s a standup citizen, trying to protect you from all the creepers in the neighbourhood, but he has to realise that if he just rolled up, you have no way of knowing he’s not trying to kidnap you.
Leaving a note on your doorstep or car
Most guys forget that it is the little things in life that matter. “I see you walking in this neighbourhood every morning,” or “I noticed you going to work down the street and I think you’re cute…” The guy thinks it’s romantic: all you can think is somebody who you never even noticed before, but has been watching you! And now knows where you live or work or park.
Calling to say goodnight the night he got your number
You meet a guy at a bar, or on the beach, or in the grocery store, and give him your number. He calls you that night to say goodnight. Not to ask you on a date, but just to say goodnight. That’s not cute – that’s forced intimacy. He’s not your boyfriend!
Turning off his phone during dinner
It is likely that the guy is trying to show you that you have his full attention. This is the age of technology —we all understand that people sometimes get urgent work calls at indecent hours. Going so far as to turn the phone over or off, just makes a woman think her date has some other woman who might be texting. It also shows that you are more important than any errant lady’s distraction.
Always paying the bill
Like, ladies really love this part. Going out of his way, to flag down the waitress and ask the waitress to even keep the change, or rushing up to the counter to pay for the pack of gum you’re buying yourself, when he was all the way across the store. A lady can pay for somethings herself, and she should be allowed to do that when she wants to. But that you pick up the major bills does not mean she is after your money.
Offering you his seat at the bar
If the guy walked away after giving you his seat in a crowded bar, that’d be one thing, and really cute too. But rarely do guys do that. Instead, they stand around and you feel obligated to talk to them. They’ve basically trapped you! This can be the start of a nice conversation, but if she is not interested in talking to you, please walk away mister.
Bringing you lunch to work
If your boyfriend does this, it’s one thing. If a guy you’ve only been on a couple of dates with does this, that’s just a forced date – now you have to have lunch with him, when maybe you’d planned on eating a sandwich over some spreadsheets. It could also mean he looked up the address of your work, and even lied to the security guard or receptionist about who he was, so he could get in. But these are indications that the guy is really into you. Just report to the police when it becomes a habit.
Bringing you flowers on a first date
This is so old school, but somethings are forever green. Giving your lady a flower on your first official date is so sweet. It shows that you are a truly romantic guy, and most girls love such a guy. One does not have to wait till it’s Valentine’s Day, or her birthday to show love.
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